Recently a married, middle aged man with two teenage children who was unemployed and had suffered from depression and chronic back pain for 30 years was asked what his biggest challenge in life at the moment was. He replied, “I’m lonely, I sit in my house all day alone, I have no friends and no real life for myself... loneliness is by far my biggest challenge.”
The nightmare is oh so real; cringing at the thought of having sex or alienating your partner with an endless stream of excuses as to why you can’t (or don’t want to) have sex. Have you ever gone to bed early pretending you are too tired or that you have a headache, or are feeling “hormonal” or not in the mood?
At any given moment we have access to both the most creative powerful tool on the planet and the most powerful force that we know - human emotion.
Happiness is an art form where we direct the force of emotion into whatever it is we wish to create. The outcome is representative of the image we hold in our minds being either what we want or what we don’t want. We can continue playing small and tell ourselves the story of why it hasn’t happened yet or we can choose happiness.
Have you ever reached the top of a rollercoaster and said to yourself, “I want to get off”? Many of us are living a life of quiet desperation; we come across the tough times, the painful times and the challenges in life and often feel like we want to get off the ride. Yet it is the choices and decisions that we make which signs us up for the experience of life.
Creative power is not being limited to some narrowly defined artistic or cultural talent like music or drawing but more about utilizing our superpower to create the life we want to live through conscious choice.
Without a clear understanding of how you want to feel throughout the day, you are like a ship without a rudder which can land you anywhere - and probably where you don’t want to be.
There’s a lot that goes on when you’re emotionally triggered, from not being able to think clearly, to being unable to communicate what you want and need, to eventually pushing the people you love and care about away from you...
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