Recently a married, middle aged man with two teenage children who was unemployed and had suffered from depression and chronic back pain for 30 years was asked what his biggest challenge in life at the moment was. He replied, “I’m lonely, I sit in my house all day alone, I have no friends and no real life for myself... loneliness is by far my biggest challenge.”
A recent survey of 20,000 U.S. adults found that nearly half of people suffer from feelings of loneliness. Two fifths of older people in the UK, around 3.9 million, view the television as their main source of company. Loneliness is heavily linked to heart disease, cancer, depression, diabetes and suicide.
While a common assumption is that the elderly are at greatest risk for loneliness, data shows that up to 70 percent of late adolescents and young adults report that they “sometimes” or “often” feel lonely, compared to 30 to 50 percent of older adults.
Research shows that breakups are the leading cause of psychological distress and a major cause of suicide among young people.
It has been said that at no place in the history of the world have we become more connected to one another and yet disconnected from the person right next to us.
Loneliness and isolation may be seen by many as physical separation from another whereas in reality it stems from separation in our hearts and minds.
Overcoming our prejudices and limited beliefs against one another would therefore result in far less conflict, suffering and turmoil the world over.
This has been no more evident than in the United States 2016-2020 election process. It’s not about who is your country’s leader and which political party is in power, but whether you allow your political views to make you despise or hate another human being.
For many years but especially the last four years, we’ve been watching the divisiveness of the United States through its two main political ideologies culminating in the 2020 election. This situation could potentially end up in a civil war and not affect just the United States, but the world at large as has been the case already.
Politics is not so much the problem, but rather the complex mechanism that politics has become where truth has become a stranger and hard to find.
The fear of saying something that is politically incorrect has made people afraid of speaking their truth for fear of persecution and isolation from others.
Social isolation is defined as a lack of contact with other individuals, while loneliness is the feeling that one is emotionally disconnected from others. Some people express loneliness even though they have regular contact with family and friends as these relationships are not providing the emotional support that they need.
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Taking Back Our Power
We cannot rely on the Governments of the world to solve our problems and therefore we need to try something radically different.
The fundamental principle of coming to the level of agreement between two opposing ideals is to “chunk up” to something both can agree on.
When we can agree, it brings us closer together as human beings and it is here that we truly experience the power of the people; when we work together toward a common objective there is nothing that will stop us.
The mental imagery that we hold in our minds, what we think of most, eventually becomes our reality and when this imagery is shared in our society we become enmeshed in it. The vast majority of us are programmed in moving away from fear, the things that might hurt us, things that we don’t want.
Taking back our power is simply having the ability to change our focus toward what we do want and how we do want to feel… toward the things that give us pleasure, reward and feelings of really being alive.
We don’t need to eradicate the darkness, we just simply need to turn on the light.
Creating Magic in the World
The whole of human society has been created from the human collective consciousness and therefore it is possible to reshape it and to change the world from a divisive world to a magical world.
If we only just recognize our incredible abilities of creating magic in the world there would be no suffering; and there would be…
Join us - not just to create a better world, but to create a magical world where anything is possible.
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