The Emotional Reset Technique (ERT) Rather than react when you are emotionally triggered, the Emotional Reset Technique enables you to feel calm and think clearly. Now you can respond to the situation, expressing your thoughts and feelings from an empowered state without being overwhelmed.
Master your emotions (the most powerful force on earth) with one simple technique to transform your life and the lives of those around you
Feel and look years younger with less energy-zapping arguments, conflicts, stress, anxiety and relationship problems
Enjoy increased confidence, self-esteem and focus to communicate with power and achieve the best outcomes
Easily deal with difficult people and challenging situations from a place of calm with less emotional triggering
Live a happier more enjoyable life with fulfilling, meaningful and long-lasting relationships
Eliminate feelings of separation, isolation and loneliness in your own life and the lives of those around you
The Emotional Reset Technique:
Neutralises anxiety and other strong emotions
Removes emotional resistance and feelings of separation
Reduces feelings of being triggered
Prevents controlling and reactive behaviours
Enables clear, calm and inspired communication
Eliminates feelings of isolation and loneliness
Provides clarity to resolve other issues
Enables a clear sense of moving forward in life
"Our emotions often make us react in a negative manner when there is nothing we want more than to be able to stay calm and be responsive”
Prevent Relationship Breakdown:
Over the last 15 years in helping thousands of people overcome depression, suicide ideology and family violence, we recognise that the vast majority of these social challenges stem from relationship breakdown. We are all in a constant relationship with ourselves and others whether we are at work, home, in our community, social gatherings, sports, or school.
Every interaction you have in life depends on your ability to relate. Your ability to feel good about yourself and your life, therefore, depends on how well you are relating with yourself and with others. This is also the key to happiness and personal wellbeing.
The biggest impediment to achieving happy and fulfilling relationships are emotional reactions to real or imagined events and situations. These may include anger, frustration, anxiety, sadness among others. We feel emotionally triggered many times a day, more often when we have other issues going on that we don’t know how to resolve.
Arguments drain energy and usually end up in a negative situation and outcome for all concerned. Sometimes, devastating things are said and done in the heat of the moment that you can regret for the rest of your life. An argument can be brought on by a clashing of ideas, not feeling heard, feeling disrespected, feeling judged, feeling accused, feeling put down, feeling unappreciated and can arise in moments unexpectedly and that are not the best time to have a discussion.
We have been conditioned since childhood to ignore or suppress our emotions to make us more acceptable to others. This very act keeps us feeling separate and isolated from others. Stop the cycle of violence toward yourself and others by mastering your emotions and associated triggers. The Emotional Reset Technique is the key to effective communication in relationships so you don't become defensive when you are triggered, make excuses for your behaviour and have to deal with the negative impact and destruction of these in your life.
Take Charge of Your Emotions:
The Emotional Reset Technique helps us establish a calm physiological state when emotionally triggered from a perceived threat or hurt. It is effective in resetting and regulating our facial expressions, gestures, listening and voice tonality. ERT also helps calm the heart, down-regulates defenses and increases the flow of beneficial hormones and neurochemicals within the body such as dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin and endorphins.
The Emotional Reset Technique gives you real power and control over 3 main areas of your life:
Emotions: Your biology and psychology work together and your physiology is the best indicator of threat.
Your brain is designed to connect with others and is threatened when you feel isolated
Maintaining positive emotions is dependant on energy drain from false emotional triggers
Being able to consistently reset your negative emotions to a place of calm is true power
Relationships: Great relationships are your best investment in time and energy and the best antidepressant.
Being able to reorient your brain's focus from threat/suffering toward reward/happiness
Understanding and awareness that your attitude creates your state, therefore your world
Your creative potential is achieved through your relationships with people
Thinking: It is your thinking that sabotages your happiness by putting a meaning on the situation or event.
Taking full accountability for the choices you make and their outcomes
Eliminating accusation, blame and criticism from your life
Focusing your energy on what you want and not on what you don’t want
He ora te Whakapiri, he mate te whakatariri. There is strength in unity, defeat in anger
1. Resolve:In resolving the triggered emotional response, it will allow you to naturally reset your point of focus into a more neutral, calm and aligned perspective so you have time to feel and think clearly. Expressing your thoughts and feelings from an empowered state instead of feeling overwhelmed is the most intelligent and effective form of communication.
2. Respond:The best way to respond is to act from a place of safety, calm and power. By preventing your mind from over analysing and reacting to situations, you are now able to respond in the most appropriate manner when triggered from an internal or external event.
3. Respect:Continued application of the Emotional Reset Technique gives you the confidence to live a life of respect to yourself and others which leads to mental and emotional peace and well being. This is beneficial in the treatment and prevention of anxiety, depression, addictions, suicide, family violence, bullying, various forms of harassment, isolation and suicide.
You will feel so much more empowered when you communicate from a space of being calm, honest and truthful. The hundreds of people we have already helped with this technique speak of how powerfully connected it makes them feel:
“This technique makes me feel like I have super powers! My partner and I have very different parenting styles and this caused a great deal of arguments. I always felt resentful that her kids weren’t pulling their weight and her daughter and I were always triggering each other into arguments. They wouldn’t listen to me, nor would they respect anything I had to say.
I’ve been consistently applying the technique when I’ve felt triggered over the past few weeks and it’s incredible how different I feel - and the kids are now responding and listening to me! My partner keeps looking at me like she’s trying to figure out what’s different. I feel so much more relaxed and at ease."
"Harnessing your emotions is the key to a fulfilling life and lasting relationships"
What Does the Emotional ResetTechnique Help With? ERT can help these common issues:
Feelings of isolation
As an example, David was trying to give up smoking but couldn’t get past his great emotional need to have a cigarette. In the past, he had been sent to counseling after being caught smoking marijuana. He described that drug as being the only thing which made him feel good as a person. When that option was taken away from him, he wondered at the craziness of it and had said to his parents, “You mean you’re taking away from me the only thing which makes me feel good and makes me want to live?”
After years of counseling, the Emotional Reset Technique enabled David to immediately regain his sense of self and personal empowerment so he didn’t need external validation or his previous addictions:
“I was shown this technique to deal with a personal issue. It was also suggested I apply it whenever I felt the need to smoke cigarettes. Within two days my cravings were gone completely! And now I don’t feel the need for alcohol either! I can’t believe how relaxed and at ease I feel. It feels good just being me.”
David (18 years old)
It’s not the method of the addiction, but the underlying hurt and sense of disconnect that needs to be addressed, because this is what makes the person reach for a better feeling. The Emotional Reset Technique itself, neutralises the emotional response and brings your brain into an empowered state. In this empowered state, there is no need for a dopamine hit and you immediately feel relaxed and at ease.
Development of the Emotional Reset Technique
The Emotional Reset Technique (ERT) has been a work in progress over 15 years. We have worked extensively over the past two years in developing the Emotional Reset Technique to help people improve relationship dynamics and diminish the suffering and negative outcomes from emotionally triggered situations. The Emotional Reset Technique will be provided together with MATES facilitator training and other online programmes from the Life Education Initiative, as well as a membership programme to further empower individuals and couples in developing and enhancing their personal growth and relationship potential.
ERT gives you the power to transform your relationships with others
The Emotional Reset Technique is Saving Relationships Chris was 5 years into a new relationship. Right from the start, he developed a tumultuous relationship with his partner’s oldest daughter, age 15. The constant tension, arguments and stress between them was driving a wedge into his otherwise happy relationship with the girl’s mother. He constantly felt triggered and was always on edge in his interactions with her. He sometimes dreaded going home because he couldn’t seem to help himself from over reacting when he felt triggered.
“This technique has so many applications. I thought that my awful relationship with my partner’s daughter was going to destroy our own relationship. We just couldn’t get along. I started applying the Emotional Reset Technique and so far it has worked! It’s made it easy to get along with my step daughter and the best thing is that it’s improved my relationship with my partner too.” Chris G
The Emotional Reset Technique is an essential step for resolving the issues which are contaminating your relationships. Combined with the Life Mastery Membership programme and supporting phone app, this complete method can reset your relationships and your life to succeed on autopilot.
“The Emotional Reset Technique helps generally with life problems. I find it quite simple and effective and I know it will become more natural for me. Thanks for your very clear and helpful guidance. It has made a big difference to my confidence.”
Where Can I Find Out More? Mates Organisation is currently promoting the release of the breakthrough new online programme: The Emotional Reset Technique - Connecting People. Pre-order today to access special discounted prices and notifications of upcoming Emotional Reset Technique Book, Mobile App and MATES Life Mastery Membership.
For more information about the Emotional Reset Technique and for support with your relationships with others and yourself, please visit our other website www.relationships.org.nz